Over the last couple weeks, I have been reading I Kissed Dating Goodbye written by Joshua Harris. This is a book that I would recommend every single Christian read. Prior to reading this book, I had already had many of the personal standards described in this book. Joshua Harris describes the immaturity of dating and the worldly mindset we have on dating. When a couple is established, they should not be selfish in satisfying their own needs. They need to have the other's wants and goals in their mind. Dating was not made to "try out" different people, but rather to find a partner to eventually marry and spend one's whole life with. I have many similar concerns with dating in a young age. When I see dating now, I don't see two people in pursuit of the same goal, I see two people striving to please their own physical needs by using the other. Oftentimes, we can forget about the other's needs and go after our own because we do not really know the purpose of dating. We think that it is just innocent dating, and then innocent kissing, and then who knows what? I think that a great standard to set is to save as much passion as you can fro your future spouse. I would recommend this amazing book to gain a biblical perspective of what dating should look like.
You might enjoy my blog where I critique Josh Harris's book:
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Unfortunately Josh Harris only shares the defects of dating and not the problems with his approach including problems that have existed in his own church.
Hope this helps.
Thank you for the challenge.
ReplyDeleteI viewed your blog, but the problem I see with dating at my age (teen years) is a lot of immaturity. I did not find the book to be about kissing dating goodbye forever, but I saw Harris encouraging us to think about the maturity level of our relationships. It helped me understand what dating is intended for(finding a lifelong partner), and not simply trying out people for the fun of it.
I suggest both of you read Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship, also by Mr. Harris.
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ReplyDeleteI have heard of the second book and I am wanting to read it in the future. As of right now, I plan on being single. I wanted to read it when I start to look for a spouse.
Thanks, if you get a chance, tell me what you think about it. :)
I'm reading it right now, even though I'm not exactly looking for a spouse. I was just making my way through all the Harris books. It's really good so far, but I'll let you know when I'm finished.
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